Should my boyfriend judge me for this?
I buy clothing off Mercari, Depop, poshmark apps like that. There’s nothing wrong with it and I buy a lot of my stuff off those sites because one it’s cheaper and two some clothing items I like being worn in. Well I had just got this shirt and I showed him the app and he just laughed at me and I told him you make me feel stupid now. Because it’s not like the clothes are gross a lot of them are in good condition and never worn. And then he made a comment about good will. I’m not working right now so I don’t have money coming in and would still like to get new clothes so doing that I save more money. I just think he shouldn’t judge anyone for where they get there clothing whether it’s used or not
- NikiLv 64 weeks ago
Tell him to start buying your clothes. Maybe then he will learn not to treat people so badly. Why does his opinion mean so much to you? Buy what you like, his opinion on your clothes doesn’t matter. Make him buy you some clothes.
- bluebellbkkLv 71 month ago
He is silly and immature, but sadly, so are you. Otherwise you would just wear the clothes you want to wear and not go running to your boyfriend for his approval, then come running to us when you don't get that approval.
If you're old enough to have a boyfriend and to have a job (even if you're not working right now), you are surely old enough to make your own decisions about clothes AND about boyfriends.
If he "made you feel stupid" it's because you LET him make you feel stupid. Act your age.
- WOOWHOLv 71 month ago
start with word use and meaning which many persons who uses the words daily lack a understanding or what they mean i suspect the question is not about the BF opinion but rather him possibly IMPOSING his opinion or DIRECT you as in impose his will upon you aka authoritarianism
SHOULD (verb) used to indicate OBLIGATION, DUTY , correctness , especially when criticizing another persons actions
JUDGE ( noun) a public official appointed to decide cases ( offenses or discrepancies ) in a court
JUDGE (verb) to form an opinion or conclusion about
Human beings are individuals have a MIND and Thoughts so are ABLE to form THEIR opinions and conclusions of what is ACCEPTABLE to "THEM" . The Difference is when they IMPOSE them on others .a frequent question in RELIGION is where do Atheist get their Morals from .. an , ANSWER from growing and maturing observations experiences a understanding of HUMAN WELL BEING . life is preferred to death . Heath is preferred to illness happiness to pain Freedom preferred to slavery ..that their action effect themselves and others
a common saying is a person may hear is WHO DIED and made you BOSS ( origin with generational monarchy KINGS ) or WHO do you think you are GOD ( religious authority )
both expressions goes to a EXTERNAL source DICTATING which are ETHICS NOT MORALITY , MORALITY is individual a individual persons conclusion about human behavior
an example a King individual or a religion social organization or government , may set a RULE that ALL PEOPLE must eat FISH on FRIDAY .... Jack is ALLERGIC to fish it will cause him HARM impair his WELL BEING ..... it would be IMMORAL for Jack to eat FISH .... and others like Jack who are Allergic , so for JACK eating FISH is immoral and to impose it on other is IMMORAL
your BF is NOT your AUTHORITY unless you want to give him that AUTHORITY to DICTATE DIRECT and have such power , to be submissive and stop THINKING for yourself
People can CHANGE their opinions and Behaviors , but they generally Stay with what they find is WORKING for them that achieves their DESIRES
DEMEANING others , devaluing others inferring INFERIORITY , are tactics of Dominance and power , control
- Anonymous1 month ago
No, I don't think so
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- jeanLv 41 month ago
just don';t bring it up again. He does not need to know where u get your clothes
- e9601:Lv 61 month ago
Then tell him to buy your clothes. NEW. You are doing the right thing.
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- kelvinLv 71 month ago
no he should not
- LM440Lv 61 month ago
There is nothing wrong with you saving money on quality clothing. If he wants your clothing to come from a different source, he is free to buy them for you.
- myfavouritelucyLv 71 month ago
I can't believe I've just wasted 20 seconds of my life on this crap