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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsEngagements & Weddings · 1 month ago

my fiancé want to postpone wedding date because all his family won't be able to make it. I have  change twice it already. parents are coming?

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  • Trish
    Lv 5
    1 month ago

    Try to wait until everyone gets vaccinated depending on whenever they find a vaccine...then maybe WHO will decide you can have gatherings so you can choose a date when your fiance's family and friends can attend.

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  • Jerry
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    A lot of people are postponing weddings due to covid. Join the club. 

    Some information about the history of marriage customs might help you evaluate some alternatives to what we're most familiar with. 

    Traditionally, after the vow exchange the bride's family hosted an event to introduce their new daughter (in-law) to their relatives and close friends. Then after the wedding journey (honeymoon) when the couple went to live in the groom's hometown his family hosted an event to introduce their new son (in-law) to their own relatives and close friends. 

    The way these after marrying parties got the name "receptions" is from the root word "to receive." To say "we do not receive McGee" was to say that McGee is not welcome in ones home, that one does not recognize McGee socially, that one shuns and will have nothing to do with McGee. 

    To officially receive a newcomer was a big deal. So giving a reception for someone was a big deal, an event to welcome a newcomer into the family and social group. Thus it came about that each family gave a reception for the newcomer. 

    It could also happen that other friends or relatives living in other areas, traveling in other social circles, would also host receptions to introduce the new in-law to that circle as well. A new bride or new groom often had quite the round of receptions to attend, quite a few "this is your official welcome to the group" events. 

    The point is that you needn't feel uncomfortable about choosing to have multiple receptions, multiple celebrations, one for each family. When the two families are far apart this may be the best option. That's the way it was done in a past time when, like today, travelling could be very burdensome, even impossible. 

    Whatever you two work out, congrats and best wishes. 

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  • 1 month ago

    If your family couldn't make it, i assume you'd want to change it so they could. Not unreasonable.

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    don't marry the guy then. you two obviously can't come to a compromise and you're the only one bending backwards to accommodate to him, he's not respecting you nor making any effort

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  • Mike
    Lv 5
    1 month ago

    So what is your question?

  • Due to covid 19, unless you can have large gatherings of people, it would be a good idea to postpone it until every one can safely attend your wedding. 

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    • Jerry
      Lv 7
      1 month agoReport

      It's not a rule of etiquette, but IMO it is gracious for the family that is spared the bother and expense of travelling to offer assistance (help paying for travel, providing lodging) to that family which does take on the expense and bother of travelling. 

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