Why do some gay men want to become parents?

Why do some gay men want to be parents either by adoption or surrogate means? 

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  • 1 month ago
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    If a gay couple wanted to start a family of their own, obviously they couldn't if they are of the same birth sex. They'd have to seek another way. The reason they'd want to is simple. Why would a straight couple want kids? To take care of them and have a family. Being gay shouldn't impede on someone's desire to do so. If they're good parents and are stable enough in their lives to raise the kid, then let them have at it. Let them be happy.

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    • The Bad1 month agoReport

      we're not infertile, you idiot. we just don't want to have sex with women. the point was that needing external help does not make someone any less normal.

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  • 1 month ago

    Most human adults want to become parents.  Why would gay men not?

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  • the same reason straight people who are barren do,they care about kids and want one.

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  • 1 month ago

    For the same reason bisexual and heterosexuals want to be a parent.

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  • 1 month ago

    Riddle me this: why the HELL shouldn't they be?

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  • 1 month ago

    They are selfish.  They want to pretend to be fathers regardless of what their child has to deal with.  Imagine a 5th grade showing up at family day with his two fathers.  He's going to get it the next Monday at school.  Imagine the Daddy-Daughter dance.  Which daddy show up.  They have no regard for what they are doing to their so called children.  They just want children.

  • 1 month ago

    Probably the same reason why heterosexual parents who are infertile want to become parents "either by adoption or surrogate means".  What is the difference?

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  • 1 month ago

    Children give stability to heterosexual marriages. So they try to mimic that.

    Using surrogacy to deliberately create a class of children who will live apart from their biological mother or father is certainly wrong. Both straight and gay surrogacy.

    There are not enough studies to prove that LGBT parenting is good for children. The research in this area is quite preliminary. The studies that they cite are obviously biased in favor of the LGBT adoption movement sponsored by the LGBT advocates and the rest of the studies are suppressed. That is no brainer. That is how the LGBT movement works. They don't care what is right, logical, and ethical. There is that mad obsession with wanting to do everything that the heterosexuals do no matter what consequences it might have on society and children.

    There are studies that show children raised by same-sex couples are significantly more likely to identify with non-heterosexual identities. We will know about it coming decades, when the vast majority of the children raised by same-sex couples, will *not* marry the opposite sex person and have biological children. Advocates of LGBT parenting will still say that it is a good thing. You can't reason with them.

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30888553/

    We have known for decades that children do well if they are raised by both mom and dad. This is an indisputable fact. Two-parent (mom and dad) family system is far superior to any other system because it is naturally occurring. But you are trying to reason with a group that says there is no difference between the male and female except for genitalia.

    "A recent study of father absence on girls found that girls who grew up apart from their biological father were much more likely to experience early puberty and a teen pregnancy than girls who spent their entire childhood in an intact family. This study, along with David Popenoe's work, suggests that a father's pheromones influence the biological development of his daughter, that a strong marriage provides a model for girls of what to look for in a man, and gives them the confidence to resist the sexual entreaties of their boyfriends."

    * Ellis, Bruce J., et al., "Does Father Absence Place Daughters at Special Risk for Early Sexual Activity and Teenage Pregnancy?" Child Development, 74:801-821.

    * David Popenoe, Life Without Father (Boston: Harvard University Press, 1999).

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    • Cole1 month agoReport

      I support the right of the child to live with biological mom and dad. Deliberately creating single parent families is wrong.

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  • 1 month ago

    Reproduction is a biological imperative. Perpetuation of the species no matter what. The same urge that all future parents have.

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    • Alexander
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      1 month agoReport

      @Not here -- The same reasons straight couples adopt: compassion, the need to parent, love of children, etc.

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Unfortunately their relationship is unnatural so they cannot have children in the normal way. 

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