Anyway my ex (who I cheated on) would come back into my life even as friends?

So I was with my ex for 4 years. She caught me cheating and since that incident she still was willing to remain in touch but it went from literally being with each other everyday to 1-2x a week. And I could tell the love was not in the air like that anymore.

She told me she was going to move to a different state with her dad a couple months after the incident and the last week that she was staying here, I was so filled with mixed emotions I blew up and said some disrespectful things.

She told me she doesn’t want to be with someone who’s gonna treat her like that and to stop contacting her. I obviously didn’t listen and tried to apologize and make things right but literally no response, which reverted back to me saying more disrespectful stuff. and now she has cut off all contact with me. Social media, changed phone number, etc.

It’s been a little over month now and still nothing and I’ve been so devestated and sad. I understand if I can’t have her back as my lover but atleast as a friend. I know I totally messed up, I’ve learned my lesson through her and I just wanna make amends and make things right. I love and miss her so much, everyday I think about her and I can’t stop. This girl was my best friend and I’m so STUPID for messing this up. I just want her back in my life, even if it’s just being friends.

I know I need to move on and I will eventually but I just want her to know that I’m truly trying to better myself everyday since she left and I will

3 Answers

  • Alan H
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    You cheated. She moved on. Leave her alone

  • Janet
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    Stop caring about how she feels.

    It won't fix anything between you two.

    It will keep you addicted to her.

    It will not fix your embarrassment about yourself.

    Talk to a therapist instead.

    Move on now.

    You are like the drug addict who won't stop using.

  • 2 years ago

    This is additional info to the question (I posted the question):

    And a mutual friend of ours had told me that when my ex found out I cheated, it broke her and when the mutual friend asked what was our relationship status, my ex just replied “it is what it is”.

    This was my first real girlfriend ever (I’m 26 she’s 22) we never intended to even be in a serious relationship, let alone a 4 year one. And to have it crashing down like this because of my stupidity and selfishness I’m suffering from it. And when they say “you don’t know what you have until it’s gone” that is oh so true. I just truly miss her so much and want her to be back apart of my life again. I promise I will do right and make things right if given the opportunity.

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