My mom is seeing someone 20 years younger than her and I’m about to lose my mind?

So my mom is in the process of getting a divorce from my narcissist father who has caused emotional damage to our family throughout the years. The divorce is not completely final but my mom seems to think it is. I did something any daughter would do and SNOOPED around because she was acting weird and her “gym”... show more So my mom is in the process of getting a divorce from my narcissist father who has caused emotional damage to our family throughout the years. The divorce is not completely final but my mom seems to think it is. I did something any daughter would do and SNOOPED around because she was acting weird and her “gym” times seemed to be extending. Came to the conclusion that she’s been fooling around with a 27-28 year old, sending pics, messages, and meeting up. Now I completely understand that she’s been emotionally/physically alone for a very long time because of how my dad was. So I understand how she’s probably feeling right now. What’s bothering me is if this actually gets serious. She seems to have feelings for him but by their messages he doesn’t seem to be as engaged as her and she obviously doesn’t see that right now. My biggest fear is her actually considering a REAL future with this guy. I’ve never had a real father figure in my life and I would like to. My dream is for my mom to eventually marry a wonderful man that can finally be the father our family has never had. And I can’t have my step dad be a couple years older than me. Maybe I’m thinking way too ahead but I’m really paranoid. I can’t take holding it in anymore, but I’m way too embarrassed to bring this up to her. I hate his guts for using her (for her body only) at a time when she’s so vulnerable. I just need some guidance right now, even if it’s from strangers. Thanks

I’m 22 btw so I’m disgusted
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