First of all, 19 and still living at home. Second of all, having parents pay for college. Third of all, parents paying for phone. If you want independence, it is up to you to establish your independence. You get a job. You get a job and with the money you earn you pay for your own phone. You get a job and with the money you earn, you save enough to pay for local community college and take business classes, and you not only attend, but since you are paying for it with your own money, you attend class and do not skip class, and you turn in all your assignments on time. Meanwhile, you use the experience from the first job to get a second job to work between classes at school, and you earn enough money to pay for your own car and insurance and your own phone. When you graduate, you get a job that pays for an apartment and you move out so you are independent of your parents. So long as your parents are still paying for you and what you have, you are under their authority. When you establish your own independence and move out and take care of yourself, they can no longer call the shots. As for sneaking out to meet a guy, how silly. It is really rather simple -- if he cannot meet you in public at your front door and take you out openly, he is a coward and unworthy. If he demands you sneak out to meet him, he is a user, a user who will use you and throw you away once he has used you, plain and simple. If he is a truly worthy real man he would go to your front door, shake hands with your parents, and take you out in the open and in public. If you have to sneak to meet he is a user who will never give. Seriously, think twice about the guy being worthy of the punishment. If he is not sweeping you off your feet and installing you in his life like the facebook memes about how a real man treats a woman, or the ones about real love, seriously think twice about him being worth the punishment! Or just be a cliche like any other teen adult and keep right on doing what you are doing. Be like everybody else and be the cliche teen adult sneaking out to meet a boy and complaining when your parents say no. I know I risk getting reported as "bad answer", but really, do you really HAVE to behave in such a cliche way? Again, user boy who sneaks around but can't face your parents and date you in the old-fashioned way, seriously, he ain't worth the punishment, he ain't worth the STD, and he ain't worth the baby and all of that which goes with it. Think twice, And then think it through and then think about not being a cliche.