Boyfriend won't have sex with me?

Been dating this guy on and off for 4 years and it was long distance then he came here in July of this year and there hasn't been any intimacy. I want sex but I feel like he doesn't. He gets hard but don't have sex with me I don't know why but it's starting to bother me. We tried 3 times to have sex with a condom but after he'd put the condom on his dick would go soft. So he stopped trying to have sex with me. & for some reason I can't give him off by giving him oral. I feel like he doesn't want me or something. I just can't seem to figure any of this out.

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Sex is 99% in the mind, and 1% physical. You say he can get hard, but as soon as you put a condom on him, he goes soft. This happens to many guys. I would suggest you put off putting the condom on him as long as possible. The longer you put off putting the condom on, the longer it will prolong the fantasy that's playing in his mind. The second you put the condom on, the fantasy breaks apart. See if you can tease him as long as possible. In fact see if you can get him to come in your hands. Don't bother with oral sex, oral is not always the best way to tease somebody, some people prefer manual stimulation, others like oral, while other like mainly manual followed by an ending in oral. You'll have to discover which way your boyfriend loves it. Once you know how to get him to come in your hands, then you'll know the appropriate level of teasing needed to get him going. Then after some more practice you can keep teasing him manually before switching over to intercourse with a condom.

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