How do I get my father to start exercising and taking care of himself?
Anyways, over the past couple of years my health has taken a turn for the worse too due to a recurrence in my epilepsy, I am no longer able to drive and do all of my errands on a bicycle now or I walk. I constantly work out myself lifting weights or bicycling and keep my weight at or below 200 and I am 2 inches taller than my father.
I have pretty much lost hope in getting my father to try to get a little into shape and I would like to have my own life however it seems that I am stuck with him. When I have ever said anything about moving out on my own to have a family of my own since I am 30 years old and the only one of my siblings to not be married, he pulls a guilt trip on me asking what I plan to about him then. I have given up my entire life for 6 years now and I think that it is time for me. i can't get any of my 3 siblings to step up and help either. Anyways I think this has gotten very pathetic and other than making him go to a nursing home I have no other idea what to do as I seem to be stuck with all of the decision making and so he is going to hate me for it. If I ever try to talk with him about money, about getting into shape, or about getting his will and assets in line he gets very angry and starts yelling at me saying he doesn't want to discuss it. Even though my parents are divorced due to my fathers laziness everything is still willed to my mother who is now remarried.
I am just hoping that someone may have some suggestions on what to do to help resolve this situation as just trying to deal with him has caused so much stress that my epileptologist says it is a major factor in my seizures and depression issues and that I need to get away from it all permanently. I just have no clue what to do as I know we can't afford to put him in a home and I know it would kill him anyways losing all of his assets and being stuck in a home, but he is just so lazy and not willing to watch his diet or exercise. The other part that bothers me is having to clean up after him, he won't wipe up his messes in the kitchen and due to his poor diet he gets the runs very bad and never cleans it up so I have to.
Any suggestions by anyone would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
He has not been willing to check into any of this, whenever I am actually able to get him to leave the house for a bit he always has to go home very quickly, conveniently forgetting to take his insulin or something. The truth about that is that he wants to get home to get on facebook as I have gone home with him many times at the same time and he never takes any insulin. He just gets on facebook. The doctors have tried giving him anti depressants, lexapro, which he never takes. He says he only takes it when he feels depressed. I try to explain to him that with SSRI meds like that you have to s