Is it possible to hate the one you love?

And if so,Then why do we love someone we hate? I love my boyfriend so much you guy's!He's everything I pray'd for!But if we have an argument,he'll dig deep and perpously hurt my feelings .I mean he'' rips my heart out'' and it's then thet I realize thet never in my life have I ever hated anyone as I do him! Yet I love him also! How is this possible? No" *****" anwsers please!

Update:

He was'nt like this when we first met! And it's hard to stop loveing someone you fell so hard for!

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Hes confused and lost my dear. Somthing is troubling him, most likely something from his childhood, maybe his parents beat him a little, it could be a number of things. If you love him then you dont hate him, you just hate the way that he is, talk with him, dig a little but take it slow. Find out whats going on in that brain of his! Good luck, God bless

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    To me it sound like you need to talk to him. He abuses you verbally and that's something no one should have to put up with. You probably need to talk to him and if he makes you feel stupid or doesn't seem like he is going to change you may need to work to leave him. I know you love him I have been there in your situation. Oh and if he says he is gonna change and then he doesn't girl he isn't worth your time. But it is not healthy to hate him the way you do. I mean you are probably still have that love for him when you guys still got together and when you first met you fell in love him. And you have grown to hate him for the things he says and the disrespect he give you. So you are kind of caught in the middle. You hate him but you love him. So it really isn't healthy. So please take my advice and I know its easier said than done. But sweety you deserve so much better. He shouldn't say things that hurt you that bad. God definitely doesn't want you going through this. If you need someone to talk to my e-mail is Christinarh06@yahoo.com

    Source(s): I have been there!!!!!!!
  • 1 decade ago

    Could it be that he has some qualities that you love and others that you hate. You have to decide if the good qualities out weigh the bad. If the good qualities out weigh the bad can I suggest counseling. If the bad qualities out weigh the good, its time to leave. If you are willing to put up with the negative, may I suggest giving him a taste of his own medicine. He will either understand how you feel or he will seek revenge. At the end of the arguements do you guys apologize to each other?

  • 4 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    in love some times it happens that you hate the one you love so much, even more than your life, but i think we are using the wrong word "hate", infact this is an agressive feeling of anger, and that feeing is for a short while, and when your anger is over you again started feeling that you cant live without him/her. I often feel in the the same way but after a while i thing i cant hate someone i love.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think people seem to get by on different types of relationships.

    If i was with someone who made me feel as bad as that then i am not sure whether i could continue with the relationship.

    It depends on how much you are willing too sacrifice you are willing to make

    I find mutual respect a very important thing.

  • 1 decade ago

    I would not say it is hate but envy. its possible the mate you are with may have some possesions you may not (whether they be material or mental, or even personality traits). what you would have is a form of envy for yourself and jealousy for your partner. All you need to remember is none of us can be "the Perfect Match" . If we were we would be nothing special to others . remember , what you may lack that your mate has means you have something else they do not!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    No it isn't. Love and hate are opposites. He purposely hurts you, rips your heart out and you say he's everything you prayed for, makes no sense to me. Maybe you should ask yourself, "what is it that I love about him?"

    So far you haven't described any good qualities.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    well its possible but then again you guys need some time apart cant really say how much time but in the end if you 2 we're meant to be together then you will be but now i think talk it out or do something tell why does he treat like this .

    i think you should give some time apart .

    and think this out .

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think your boyfriend is not a very nice person. If he says things purposely to hurt you then he isnt worth your love. You deserve much more than that.

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