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When trying to help victims of assault we need to set reasonable standards and requests before them. You will not charge a husband you love and that has never hurt you before for assaulting you while drunk. You will simply find 20 000 excuses for him, cos you love him, but you should leave him.
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Best answer: When trying to help victims of assault we need to set reasonable standards and requests before them. You will not charge a husband you love and that has never hurt you before for assaulting you while drunk. You will simply find 20 000 excuses for him, cos you love him, but you should leave him.
We all have to draw a line somewhere and drawing a line at your own husband violating you in the most heinous way is a good place to draw a line at. If you believe he is a threat to other women you have a duty to report him, to maybe save some woman from what you went through, but still leaving him will do.
I am a rape survivor and I could not try and save myself or other women in a society where I said 20 things that completely meant no and get your hands off me but the 21 thing I said was I have a bf, and the policeman questioning me focused on that and took it as a sign that i did want the sex I just had a bf and hesiatetd.
I also said open the door, let me the **** out of here, touch me one more time John (bf) will kill you, I am looking at a dead man, but the rapist was black I'm white and it all happened in Sweden where if you cry racism you can get away with rape, gang rape and murder...
So bottom line you cannot save other women from this guy when society refuses to help you, you can save yourself and your little one. Do that.
He does not love you, he raped you.
Of course if this is the first time someone's husband did something violent there'd always be a chance he had some sort of seizure, that he is goring a brain tumor, or has some sort of bad reaction to alcohol, but uttering don't you like it rough also means that it's more likely him just raping you coz he can, coz he's a sick f'uck, rather than a brain tumor.