• Should we remove Chaplains from the military?

    Should we remove Chaplains from the military?

    So much for separation of church and state huh
    So much for separation of church and state huh
    18 answers · 4 hours ago
  • WHAT KIND OF A SICK WORLD DO WE LIVE IN SINCE I CAN'T BE BURIED NEXT TO MY SON IN ARLINGTON?

    Best answer: Arlington is a military cemetery which si why you are not eligible, regardless of your son's military service. Arlington has some of teh most stringent rules about burial and given the demand for burial there, the overseeing committee does not waive these regulations often (if at all nowadays). Your rear... show more
    Best answer: Arlington is a military cemetery which si why you are not eligible, regardless of your son's military service. Arlington has some of teh most stringent rules about burial and given the demand for burial there, the overseeing committee does not waive these regulations often (if at all nowadays). Your rear admiral friend probably has very little chance of getting you buried there (think about the flood gates it would open).
    16 answers · 1 day ago
  • A cut a big, greasy fart when talking w/ a recruiter today. It stunk. The conversation soured after that. Will this affect my navy dream?

    Best answer: No. The military takes anybody it can get. Especially now.
    Best answer: No. The military takes anybody it can get. Especially now.
    6 answers · 23 hours ago
  • Does military police in the army shave off hours at police academy?

    I heard in the past that it does but I'm having problems finding information about it. I heard before that if you have military police experience it shaves off at least 500 hours. So you would have to take the other 200 some hours remaining from the 700 hours or so course. Thanks in advanced.
    I heard in the past that it does but I'm having problems finding information about it. I heard before that if you have military police experience it shaves off at least 500 hours. So you would have to take the other 200 some hours remaining from the 700 hours or so course. Thanks in advanced.
    15 answers · 22 hours ago
  • Can a man join the united states military with one nostril?

    I have one nostril
    I have one nostril
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • If the American people really do fight a second civil war in the USA, how will it be fought? Conventional war style or guerrilla warfare?

    What's going on everyone? I'm just wondering how a second civil war would be fought in the USA if the American people ever fight a second civil war with the left side democrats, liberals and globalist against the republicans, conservatives and patriots seeing as how both sides can never get along today at... show more
    What's going on everyone? I'm just wondering how a second civil war would be fought in the USA if the American people ever fight a second civil war with the left side democrats, liberals and globalist against the republicans, conservatives and patriots seeing as how both sides can never get along today at all! If we ever do fight a second civil war in the USA, how do you think it will be fought? Will it be fought the conventional war style like in Afghanistan and Iraq or will it be fought guerrilla warfare style out on miles and miles of landscapes and in jungles like in Vietnam? Or will it be fought in both styles? Thank you and God bless the USA!
    11 answers · 4 hours ago
  • Can i join the united states military?

    13 answers · 23 hours ago
  • Can soldiers participate in sports?

    Lets say a soldier whos 20 years old is an athlete and enjoys boxing for example. This soldier participates boxing to stay physically fit and because he enjoys the sport. If he shows up for work and has a broken nose, black eye, or swollen face, can he get in trouble for this? Would the chain of command do anything... show more
    Lets say a soldier whos 20 years old is an athlete and enjoys boxing for example. This soldier participates boxing to stay physically fit and because he enjoys the sport. If he shows up for work and has a broken nose, black eye, or swollen face, can he get in trouble for this? Would the chain of command do anything or not even care?
    17 answers · 2 days ago
  • I weigh 265 lbs. Am I able to join the u.s. military?

    Best answer: ^^_________________ Of course. F*ck an A!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Best answer: ^^_________________ Of course. F*ck an A!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    7 answers · 3 days ago
  • Does a security clearance for the military check medical records?

    I recently enlisted and i’m just waiting for the security clearance, i just want to know if they will pull medical records.
    I recently enlisted and i’m just waiting for the security clearance, i just want to know if they will pull medical records.
    13 answers · 2 days ago
  • Law Enforcement after AF discharge.?

    I was discharged from the Airforce during basic training. I was diagnosed with adjustment disorder by doctors at SAMMC while in training and would like to have a career in law enforcement. I don t believe I have adjustment disorder and would like your opinions on how to move forward. I will start from the... show more
    I was discharged from the Airforce during basic training. I was diagnosed with adjustment disorder by doctors at SAMMC while in training and would like to have a career in law enforcement. I don t believe I have adjustment disorder and would like your opinions on how to move forward. I will start from the beginning. I went to MEPS in April 2017 and was disqualified from military service because of my hearing. I told the doctors at MEPS I was shooting guns the day before being tested and was able to retest a month later. I was then qualified after retaking the hearing test and swore in that day. I had a contract in munitions. After 6 months I went to basic training and shortly after started failing hearing tests. I then seen a specialist and then a career counselor. I was no longer qualified for my munitions job. I talked to a chaplain in my squadron in an attempt to get information on how to get out of the military. He told me that if I ELS I will never have a chance of getting a job flipping burgers, none the less a job as a police officer. I became depressed and had terrible anxiety. I felt trapped. The MTI s noticed I was depressed and I agreed to go to SAMMC. I don t believe I have adjustment disorder. I was depressed about losing my job and the plans I had for the military years prior. I adjusted to basic training and military life just fine. 1)can I become a cop with this type of discharge? 2) Can I challenge the type of discharge?
    7 answers · 8 hours ago
  • In the military, when bombs are dropped from airplanes do they actually make a whistle like noise during descent?

    Seen this is a lot of WWII portrayals
    Seen this is a lot of WWII portrayals
    7 answers · 9 hours ago
  • Question for army chaplains.?

    I am curious about something I am a SPC in the process of converting to Judaism and for that reason I am trying to keep kosher which I am putting in for seperats to purchase kosher food. But I am curious as to keep food kosher I am essentially required to have a kosher kitchen which is impossible to do living in... show more
    I am curious about something I am a SPC in the process of converting to Judaism and for that reason I am trying to keep kosher which I am putting in for seperats to purchase kosher food. But I am curious as to keep food kosher I am essentially required to have a kosher kitchen which is impossible to do living in the barracks is there a possibility of getting off post housing to allow for me to maintain a kosher kitchen? Thanks a ton.
    12 answers · 5 days ago
  • Boyfriend is joining Navy Recon, how long until he get stationed somewhere?

    So my boyfriend is looking to join the navy recon and we went to the recruiter to gather information and basically, the recruiter wasn’t helpful. I’m aware that basic is two months, and then coreman A school is four months after that but what I’m unclear about is if he gets stationed somewhere immediately after... show more
    So my boyfriend is looking to join the navy recon and we went to the recruiter to gather information and basically, the recruiter wasn’t helpful. I’m aware that basic is two months, and then coreman A school is four months after that but what I’m unclear about is if he gets stationed somewhere immediately after coreman A school or if he continues training? We’re trying to stay together during this process but it’s going to be a struggle if he’s constantly getting bounced around for training. Is it possible for him to be stationed somewhere for the 3-5 years and he’ll just be traveling for the continued training? Wherever he gets stationed I’m going to be getting an apartment there. Please any information will be useful just trying to understand how the training works and if it’s possible to still be able to go with him.
    5 answers · 7 hours ago
  • What changes should I expect from my soldier AND after marrying him after bootcamp?

    Best answer: Honestly, you have a better handle on the realities of being a military spouse than most folks your age. The overwhelming majority of first-term enlisted marriages do not survive that term of enlistment. Some do, but most don't. That's largely because of unrealistic expectations and the demands made on ANY... show more
    Best answer: Honestly, you have a better handle on the realities of being a military spouse than most folks your age. The overwhelming majority of first-term enlisted marriages do not survive that term of enlistment. Some do, but most don't. That's largely because of unrealistic expectations and the demands made on ANY new marriage.

    You're at least starting from realistic expectations. You know there will be long periods of separation; that you'll be largely independent much of the time, etc. That's good. You're not starting from pie-in-the-sky ideas of what married life will be.

    Rather than try and break down what to expect and not (and there are better resources for that than Y!A -- Family Readiness / Family Support will be your point of contact for specifics), I'll hit the big three things that cause problems.

    #1 -- First and foremost is money. Money can be a serious problem in any marriage; old or young. That is significantly compounded by being in the military. People have different ideas about spending and saving, how to prioritize money, who pays for what, where discretionary money comes from, etc., etc. That's highly personal so you two need to come to a consensus about how you'll handle money. There will be plenty of times where you'll need to be the one handling things at home while he's gone. Some folks are better at trusting their spouse than others about that. If he doesn't trust you with the finances or you don't trust him with them, this isn't going to work long-term. First-term enlistees don't make much so budgeting will be key. When one person makes more than the other (because you're going to need a job) that imbalance can be a source of friction.

    On that, I'll offer some insight from my own life and you can take it or leave it as you wish.

    To begin with, "equal" and "equitable" aren't the same thing. Equal is 50/50. Equitable is what is fair under a given set of circumstances. With that understanding, my wife and I looked at our total income to start. Of the total we make together, my income accounts for about 65% of that; hers about 35%. So I deposit 70% of my check into our joint account and 30% into my personal account. She deposits 40% of her check into the joint account and 60% into her personal account. That results in us each contributing slightly more than our fair share of our respective incomes to our joint account that pays for rent, groceries, bills, and other expenses that apply to both of us. And we each retain a fair share of our own money to do with as we wish. There's no fighting about "you spent $50 on crap now there's no money for groceries!" I have my money to spend, she has her money to spend, that amount we each have is proportional to our respective incomes, and we each contribute proportionally to our joint expenses. Joint money and personal money stay separate. We've been doing it that way for almost ten years now and it has worked wonderfully for us.

    #2 -- Family & social structure. You already understand many of the hardships you can expect. Again, mitigating that mostly comes down to talking about it first and agreeing on things before they become a problem. There are resources on base for Family Support. Use them.

    How will you handle leave to visit family? Do you want kids right away or in a few years (or not at all)? What about your job? Are you OK with quitting and finding a new job every time he gets orders? What about school? If you're in college now are you OK with trying to transfer when he gets new orders? Your life will be beholden to his. The military will not take your job or schooling into consideration when cutting his orders. Is he planning on one enlistment or does he want to try and make a career out of this? Be clear with each other about both his goals and yours and how you intend to meet those. "A dream written down with a date is a goal. A goal broken down into steps is a plan. A plan backed by action is a reality."

    #3 -- Your relationship. As you well know, you'll be spending significant periods of time apart. That's just plain hard on a relationship no matter who you are. Relationships need active attention. Physical affection matters and when you don't see someone for six months, your relationship can wither. Learning how to spend time together and time apart is important. It can be hard to make friends and establish a social circle. Make it a point to find other spouses you can talk to.

    Above all, you are a team and you should approach everything that way. When you play on a team, you do what you can to help your teammates succeed. You anticipate their needs and make a play to make that happen. That's how the whole team succeeds. No one person is responsible for everything and no one person makes the team succeed or fail. It's about how well the team plays together. That's true in marriage too. Just because something is "your" job or it's "his" responsibility doesn't make you not part of the team. Sometimes you need to be the one to make a play and sometimes he does. You support each other by recognizing that he needs you to be the best you that you can be. You need him to be the best him that he can be. You do that by helping each other grow as people. A better "me" and a better "you" make a better "us".

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    12 answers · 4 days ago