Says he's sure but still wants a DNA test?

Question

Okay so me and this guy has been back and forth but went for a year strong, and it would have been 2 yrs had he not dumped me to "be free". So we were going to get married and have babies but the marriage part got cancelled and the baby thing was meant to happen but happened when we least expected because it took us forever to concieve. But between calling off the engagement and me crying because I thought i could never have kids I guess he got stressed and wanted to give up so he moved on and thats when I found out that I was finally pregnant. Although he had moved on I was so stuck on him and still am but he's gotten into "being free" so much that he is never around. Now he is saying he wants a DNA test for closure about my pregnancy. Because at first he was saying that the baby was not his and everytime i wanna have a babyshower and ask him to buy baby stuff with me he puts it off as if he thinks i have cheated and the baby isnt his. Its like he doesnt want to do anything until the DNA test is done even though he told me he knows the baby is his. He really hurt my feelings because I know I havent been with anyone but him. I love him too much and I really wanted this , I wouldnt mess that up by cheating! Why is he treating me like this when he was the one jumping from female to female? and What should I do about this? I dont mind gettting the test but it hurts to know he thinks she isnt his.

Answer 1

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Get the DNA test, rub his nose in it, dump him, and collect child support while with a better man.

Answer 2

Well, I don't know what he's talking about if he says he knows the baby is his but still wants a DNA test, because the 2 statements don't go together. And his actions he might be mirroring with you. since he was cheating, maybe he thought you did too.

And just take the damned test and get the whole thing over with!!! Jeez.

Answer 3

Honestly I would feel offended.
He is not ready to have a baby in anyway. Probably got scared off by responsibility that he will have to take. I guess he is hoping that kid is not his. I'm sorry to say this, but you picked up a wrong guy to be father of your kid.

Answer 4

when you have a kid w/o marriage,he would be a fool not to have a test done.

why try for kids when not married? just to have these problems

Answer 5

Tell him:

"Okay, let's have a DNA test. If the baby is yours, you pay for the test, if the baby is not yours, I will pay for the test." Stop all this nonsense and for once and for all, get that over and done with because he will not pay child support otherwise, silly.

Now, stop asking him to buy things for the baby until he proves he is or is not the father.

You are causing nothing but drama here. He left you pregnant. Do what you can to provide for you and your child and forget about this silly baby shower business for now.

It is all irrelevant bullshit nonsense. Get the test. File for child support. Move on. Have a nice life.

Answer 6

Get the DNA test. Then legally he is responsible for the child and can't change his mind on a whim. You can at least fight for child support. As for the way he's treated you, that's really not unusual. He got what he wanted and moved on. You aren't the first woman to be left with a kid by a lying jerk. Stop making excuses for him and see him for what he is. Just because he fathered your child doesn't mean you need to act like his lapdog.