Why does she hate me so much? I'm confused?

Question

I get on really well with a girl at work. We get on really well, chat a lot, have a laugh, go to lunch together etc.

On recent drinks night out we have gotten very flirty and touchy feely with each other. She also let me stroke her hair and face, smiling when I done it.

When we were out last time, she said that she really, really, really liked me! She also suggested that after our next evening out that I can come over to her place and sleep on her sofa! She also said I'm great fun and that she likes hanging out with me.

Tonight we were out and she said that we're spending a lot of time together, but that she doesn't know anything about me and that may be we should stop spending time together! I started to laugh at this moment, which annoyed her a lot and she said that I cannot take anything serious (I laughed as I got nervous). She then suggested that we stop spending so much time together. I told her to say the word and that we can stop spending time together - she didn't answer me! I kept pushing her to say that we stop spending time together, but she smiled and didn't say anything!

Since she snapped at me last week about her not knowing nothing about me, she won't speak to me like usual and continuosly insults me personally. She also doesn't want to spend time alone i.e. at lunch. Today she insulted me so bad, my 2 other colleagues were so shocked, they didn't know what to say.

Everytime I try to talk to her I get insulted and she is stone cold towards me, she doesn't want to go out with me after lunch (like we used to) either, so how can I even possibly ask her out for drinks\dinner?

1. What does she want from me?
2. Is she feeling rejected after giving me all the come on signs?
3. What should I do for things to go back to normal?

Answer 1

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I would be annoyed by you as well.

I'm guessing she said well we don't really know each other means that she wants to take this involvement a bit serious. she wanted to know where your feelings are at. but instead of you convincing her that you would like to get to know each other a bit more instead of just flirting with each other, you basically laughed in her face. then you told her i could give to craps if you want to stop hanging out. you basically told her you don't really care about her.

i mean that's how i interpret the whole senerio.

I would go up to her and NOT LAUGH! be honest and say listen i don't know what is going on between us. that day that you said we don't know each other well enough i should have not laugh because i want to get to know you a bit more. I'm sorry, i have a nervous condition that i laugh when i feel nervous. i promise i wasn't laughing at you. I do like you and i do care if our friendship ends. can we mend this at all?

then see what she says.

no women doesn't like you one moment and not the next for no reason at all. there was a reason and its cos you laughed in her face and told her i don't care about this friendship with you.

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Answer 2

It kind of sounds like maybe she was getting attached and freaked out. But you won't know until she tell s you. Everyone's different.
I'd try talking to her about it, just ask her why everything changed all of a sudden and why all of a sudden she hates you? It might be awkward but it's the only way to get the answers you want. Nobody can answer those questions but her.