How should i approach this problem with a girl?

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(This is a bit long but please endure) I met this girl through online dating. She messaged me believing we have a lot in common which she was right. We were talking for about a week then we met up and it was great (I'm a pretty shy guy but with her i felt comfortable instantly. Apparently i still came of as shy but she says its cute) anyway our goodbye ended well with a kiss and she said to text her. A couple of days later we meet up again and we watched a movie at her place and we fooled around a bit but no sex which i was fine with because I've never really focused on that. We agreed to meet up again before she went on her two week holiday to the US (I'm in New Zealand) but that didn't work out because of some complicated drama she has between her ex (and no it's not what you think, they own a house together and hes giving her crap about money and she hates drama) so we talked then and she went on holiday. I thought id talk to her again when she got back but I sent her a friend request on Facebook and she accepted. Here's the problem. She got back a week ago but now it seems like shes ignoring me. I've text her three times on separate days like one day apart, and a message on Facebook chat while she was online but I got nothing. Is she playing hard to get or just not interested anymore? i mean, she accepted me on Facebook but she won't talk to me? and i would hope she was more mature than that to play games if that's what shes doing, and we met on a dating site, wouldn't that push people away? My friend says i should wait another week to see if she talks to me because she might be too busy or something but i really don't think that will end good. I've been quite pessimistic about this whole thing, being shy will do that to you.

Also i don't want to just move on because i honestly don't think i can anymore. My love life experience overall is very feeble I'm 22 and I've only had three people of love interest over the years two of them girlfriends and they all ended with me in pain. My heart is broken enough, if i lose this girl i don't even want to try anymore.

Answer 1

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I think you know the answer here. She is not responding and that is not a good initial sign. Your friend is right what about a week and see if she contacts you. Don't text her or IM her anymore. Leave the ball in her court. Now you are going to have to face the fact that she may not be the one and may not be interested in you like you are in her. I chalk your shyness and lack of wanting to try as a not a attractive trait. Now before you get all half cocked. Realize you need to work on your confidence. When you have confidence it exudes and effects others and draws people to you. Going around acting pitiful will get you nowhere and you will end up lonely and forever alone. You will be constantly dumped on and used.

Get out and meet some new people and work on building confidence and self esteem. Try new places, new routes and smile at strangers.

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Thank you. I do know the answer you are right, i guess i just needed to be told what i was denying, and have come to terms with it. I have been working on my confidence issues end of last year with a couple of books but i have these depressive moments sometimes, i feel more optimistic now.

Answer 2

Do What you want , No One Cares!

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Bye! ;)

Answer 3

There’s a reason for why that site dosnt work or anything will ppl are working these days and trying to save up for things un like you that might very low chance meet someone on that that’s as lazy as you everyone’s tough even people on the street dating is a thing of the past