Me and my husband have been married 17 years, we went out the other night and he got very drunk when the waitress came over and asked if everything was ok he leaned over to her and said "you are sooo sexy" I was sitting right beside him and with his employees from work. I was very hurt and disrespected, I have not spoke to him since this happened on tuesday except to send him and email to tell him to move out. He emailed me back and asked me to answer his calls, I have been staying in a hotel since the incident and I cannot seem to let this go everytime I think about it I get angry all over again. I dont know what I want to do I just know that if I am in the same room with him I will punch him. I love him and that is why this hurts so much. I dont think sober he would cheat on me but drunk I dont know anymore. Any advice???
Let me clarify, everytime he gets drunk which is often he makes comments about my weight and about other woman but when he is sober and calls me on the phone or when he comes home at night he calls me "Sexy" , which was suppose to be a term of endearment between us so for him to say it to another woman so easliy really hurt.
If this was the first time he has ever said anything like that while being drunk give him a break. If its something he does out of habit everytime hes drunk like flirt with woman etc than re evaluate how much it bothers u and to what extent are you willing to put up with it. If its something that is going to drift you all the way to a hotel then I think that says u are not going to put it up with it. so tell him it bothers u and to change or leave for good.
Guess what? When people are drunk they say THEIR REAL THOUGHTS. So the fact that he was drunk makes it worse, because it was exactly what he would have been thinking sober.
He sounds like a real loser, and he disrespected and humiliated you. I am married to a man who would NEVER do that of course, but in your situation I would also choose to leave. You don't have to spend your life with someone who thinks so little of you.
i think you do have every right to be upset, its very disrespectful what he did and he shouldn't of but at some point or anther you HAVE TO speak to him. I am sure that if you given him the silent treatment if he loves you and doesn't want to loose you it will be lesson learned for him. Maybe consider talking to him along with a mediator if your not sure on how you will react when you d see him and speak about what occurred.
Have you ever been drunk EVER? You say stuff you don't mean. If he was as drunk as you say he was he probably doesnt even remember it. I think you are going a bit overboard throwing away a 17 year marriage over one little comment that he wasnt even in the right state of mind when he said it. And this is all coming from a 17 year old. Just try to see it his way is all im saying.
Um what I think is men have eyes and they will always look but this waitress meant nothing to him I think you should talk to him about it especially if you been married for so long. I know your hurt but don't let go of a marriage just for this reason only.
It's not like he was actually cheating on you. Give the man a break. Sometimes in life you will encounter things like this. All you have to do is LEARN how to forgive. Calling another women sexy isn't as bad as having sex with another women. Think about it.