Ok well about 3 years ago my mom and dad started having some seriouse problems....my mom had about 8 affairs with my dad and was an alcoholic and sex addict..shes also bi polar and but us in pretty bad debt...she went to rehabv twice and my dad wanted to keep the family together and tried to bring her back twice and help her but she just went back to drinking and sex...shes had some pretty bad breakouts and would scream and put a knife to my neck bit me in the face and held my sister as a hostage...shes been to jail several times for scenes she had started she would not feed us when my dad wasnt home working and would go out drinking and leaving us starving.she would pick us up from school and we live 5 miles away from the school ive had to gather my brother and sister and walk five miles home to see her having sex with a man in my house...shes had an affair with my baseball coach leaving me known as the whores son at the baseball field..my parents are getting a divorce and she doesnt want us she just wants half of myfathers pention and house and cars and material things...mmy dads a great dad and me and my brother and sisters agree he raised us for 3 years without my mom on his own and has been amazing...the divorce has been going on for almost a year and my moms parents are just paying for the attorney so she has no money to cover..my dad is working very hard to keep us financialy stable. i know to no fault divorce in california shes entitled to half which is rediculouse my dad has 4 kids to supply for and might only get half? my grandparents hate my dad and my brothers and sister...shes demanding to sell our house so she can get half which will cuz my dad to lose his job and us to leave our school we been at all our lives and lose our friends...i need to make a difference somehow just dont know what to do to prevent us to leave the city and my dad to lose his job please help!! thanks you ps im 14 my brothers are 11 and 16 and my sister is 10 also we do know how to cook now. And i need legal options that can be used to keep the house that can be used in court. THANK YOU VERY MUCH! God Bless..
School counselor is a good start. Bi-polar parent is horrid.
You mentioned the alcoholism. You many get a lot of support and understanding at an ALATEEN meeting. Alateen is part of Al-Anon and is their Twelve-step program of recovery for young people affected by another's drinking, generally aged 13 to 19 years. It is other kids from situations very similar to your own. There is much relief is just getting understanding from someone else going through something similar.
Your dad has to prove to the courts that your mother is unstable. In other words, your father needs to get an attorney and discuss these matters. Since, you all are at age to speak to the courts, being able to tell the judge what has been going on should not be an issue. If she has been in jail several times, this can prove how unstable she is.