I have a boyfriend 4 71/2 yrs we also have a child. we had a really bad break up in the summer but got back ?

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Together. I tried leaving 4 him to realize what he had and to treat me and our child better. It didn't work it just got worse. I felt so alone all the time. he wouldn't communicate with me all just treat me mean alot but i love him. So i thought taking a lil break would be good but it wasn't. We both messed with other people. I started cuz i felt so alone and then this guy came along and treated me like a queen. I loved my bf tho. So after all the hurt the both of us endured we got back together but he can't let it go. So the guy sent me a smilie face txt and now my bf is livid!!!! Didn't even know the txt exsisted until he picked up my phone like he always does which is so annoying!!!!! So i found out why the guy sent it he said it was nothing just saw u outside today! My bf doesn't trust me at all and thats a major thing!!! I think it has to do with his own insurcurities. I told him that if doesn't trust me that he shouldn't be with me and he rolled his eyes and walked away!!! What should i do???? Pls.help if u have any good advice!!! Thanks :)

Answer 1

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When things aren't working u have to end them, easier said than done, I know, but u have to think about Ur child and yourself. I have a friend who was going through the same thing, verbal and psychological abuse, and all she did was complain and take it, till one day he beat her up, and it was really bad. When u are in a abusive relationship things hardly ever get better, but they do get worse. You have to stop thinking with Ur heart and think with your brain, this person that you love so much can end up being the death of you. Please be smart and run. Good luck :)

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Thank u sooooo much

Answer 2

Well he cheated too so y is he acting so crazy about it.. You both need to just try and trust each other if its gona work and it takes time to get that trust back after cheating but it is possible if you really want it to work.. Cut all contact with the other guy you have to be completly done with him in order to move on or it won't work as long as he's txtn you your bf wnt trust you.. If you have to change your num to prove that you want to start new that would be a good idiea but ask him to change his too so you both can start fresh.. It just takes time and being honest.. If he can't trust you then your probly rite he's insecure.. Or he's still talking to someone himself and is paranoid. Do you look thru his phone maybe you should he cheated to..