How to split expenses when living with a significant other?
My boyfriend is about to move in with me and my 2 children. I am not comfortable asking him to pay half of everything for a few reasons: first, I make more than him, second, he is not half the expenses (he didn't ask for this house, I had it when he came along, etc). Third, he travels a lot and is not even here that much to even run up utilities or food or anything.
I was thinking of asking him to pay approximately 1/3 of most everything plus a set amount for food, so it would come out to about $800 per month that he'd be paying. For now, that is all he can pay due to child support and having to pay for travel expenses for work. He is also very willing to pull his weight other ways around the house (that are in many ways much more valuable to me), like maintaining the yard, helping me with laundry, cleaning, etc.
Does this seem fair to both of us? Or am I missing something?
Oh yeah, we'd each still pay our own personal debt/expenses, etc (phones, cc, student loans, etc.)
ETA - the reason I said he didn't "ask" for the house is that it is huge and has a high mortgage. To ask him to pay half of it isn't reasonable on his income. I am financially able to support myself completely (with child support obviously), so that's not it. It's just that no one can stay here for a free ride, and he does not want that either. So I'm trying to make it fair to us.
When I was married (for 12 years), we split everything, it all went in one pot and got paid from there. But we had been together since I was 18, so essentially it had always been an "us". In this case, we're talking 2 adults with their own families.
And no, it's not a business deal, it's a relationship. But finances is always a big issue in relationships, so we are trying to be as up front as possible to be proactive.
1 year ago
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