What do I do if my girlfriend acts like she doesn't care anymore?

Question

Okay so I'm a girl in a relationship with a girl (not that it matters but w/e). Anyway, we've been together for almost one year. Things are awesome. Or they were. Just recently (probably the last month) she's been acting like she doesn't care. She's been getting distant and saying she's busy. She doesn't ask me to hang out or offer to make plans or whatever to see me. And she hasn't been saying "I love you" as often, which has caused me to stop saying it. I love her so much. And I want the best for her and her life. But I don't understand why she doesn't want to see me. We got into a fight the other day and she told me I can't have every ounce of her energy, that she doesn't always want to see me, and I'm not always her priority. I completely get that she has other priorities like work and school and family and etc., but I don't want to hear that I'm not a priority. She's my priority most of the time. I'm not trying to smother her. I give her space and let her do her own thing. But she just doesn't seem interested in me anymore. I don't feel like I'm that important to her, which makes me feel like a fool because I care so much about her. One more thing, I've been expressing this concern to her because I want her to know how I feel. But she laughs and tells me I'm being ridiculous. She says I'm the one with the problem because she's perfectly satisfied with the relationship and I need to figure out what I want. I almost feel like she just wants me to break up with her but I know she still loves me. She's just not showing it like I'd like. Help?

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BTW I'm 20 and she's 21. She acts like she wants a future with me (we're planning on moving out together soon ish), and I know she genuinely loves me. It's just so hard for her to deal with things when they get hard. She's fine with disagreeing but she doesn't handle me getting emotional well at all and it causes her to close off.

Answer 1

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i think it's really awesome that you love someone that much but I just think that maybe there's something else going on with her life that she's not telling you, since I don't know fully your situation do not take my advice wholly because I'm just telling you what I think is best with what you've given. I think that maybe you need to take a step back and just do your own stuff and get busy as well, ik how hard it is but I just think there's something major going on with her cause from what it sounds like you guys have been an awesome couple but laughing at you...idk...i dont want to worry you but it's just kinda like a warning that maybe there's something really big going on but just keep doing the best you can do because that's all you can do, she will come around eventually but yeah take time to improve yourself as well and just live life :)

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Thanks. We ended up talking and things are better now. I guess she's just been stressed and needed some space. :)

Answer 2

Give her the space she is craving. Honestly, the time apart from you will either help her realize she misses you/wants to be with you, or gets her to believe she can handle time alone. My bf didn't give me my needed space, we suffocated each other, and we broke up. Then, while we were broken up, I realized that I missed telling him how my day was, wondering how his day was, etc. etc. When I realized that, it was too late. Although we broke up, I still loved him. I just had to focus on what I thought was best for me. Now, I'm in a relationship with someone else, but I still have a love for my ex and wish him the best. If you do make it, it was meant to be. If not, there is something greater for you. Also, just because a relationship ends doesn't mean the love stops. For some it remains the same, shows up later, or changes to a different type of love. I wish you the best of luck with your situation!

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