My parents want me to leave her after two years?
A bit about me:
I'm 17, been enrolled in college for about 2 years now and am going to a university out of state next semester. I have always been the type to take into consideration advice given from an adult and I am always reasonable when discussing issues. I say this because I don't want people on here blowing me off as a narrow minded and naive teenager. I have been in a number of relationships and I have gotten to understand girls quite a lot, especially being the only son in a family with three older sisters.
Before I met my current girlfriend, I spent a lot of time searching for the right girl as well as being careless and single. I enjoyed the single life but I always new it wasn't what truly made me happy. The memories were great, but the people who I shared the memories with were unreliable. I found myself stressed out dealing with friend issues very often. On top of that, messing around with girls who I barely knew only made me feel disgusting.
When I met my girlfriend, we gradually started talking more and more. After a month or two we started texting all day then eventually talked on the phone every night. I found myself enjoying my conversations with her more than I did going out and getting involved in potential friend situations. When school started, I was dating her and I had much less stress than I ever had. I was finally able to focus on school and got straight A's for the first time. So eventually I was spending more time talking to her and seeing her than I did seeing my friends. This girl is amazing in her heart, she's the type to tear up just thinking about stray cats. The things that made the relationship difficult, and is the reason why my parents want me to leave her, is her insecurities and, you wont believe it, her height..
She has gotten really hurt before and fell into a deep depression before she met me. She has always been sensitive with her emotions, even with anger, but honestly I don't mind. I know the sweet girl she is and I understand why she is the way she is. Since a child she was mistreated by family as well as bullies. She has contemplated suicide, and that is something I haven't told my parents, in fear of her being criticized. I have done my research on supporting a depressed person and I have made sure to keep myself stable as well. But it make me the happiest guy knowing that I'm here for this girl, and saving her from her depression. My parents see it otherwise. They see that their son is losing precious time and that she is controlling him. Apparently she wont "let me breathe" and "I'm scared of her." Because I make sure she is okay whenever she needs me... They don't believe anything I tell them, they think I only say these sweet things about her to defend her while she controls me. Another ridiculous reason that plays a big role is because I'm 6'1 and shes 5'1, I wont even comment on that argument..
Now almost two years later, I was blessed with a full ride scholarship but got forced to go to school out of state. The news hit her hard, it really broke my heart seeing her react. She was happy for me but at the same time devastated that another guy was leaving her again. I could not do that to her, she doesn't deserve that pain. Thankfully she agreed on the idea of possibly going to school in the same city but in a separate apartment while I stay in a dorm. Having her there would make me really happy, especially knowing that it makes her happy.
Now the issue, and I just want to thank whoever is still reading this. My parents found out about her wanting to come with me and they went over the top. Again they see this as her leaching on me and controlling my life. They told me that if I don't end things with her and go by myself, they are completely cutting off ties with me and will wish me luck. They want to force me to leave not just my girlfriend, but my closest friend, just because of their judgmental impressions of her. Keep in mind they have not once tried to get to know her. All of the negative judgement is completely from what they see from afar. Honestly I feel like this is getting to far to the point where I want to leave whoever in my family who doesn't support me and go enjoy my life with my girlfriend. But I am stuck, if I react that way they wont see it as, "We should probably listen to him if he's going this far to defend her" they'll see it as, "Look what she's done to him." Please help me out, is this the one time I should go against what my parents say? I really think they are being completely insensitive and selfish.