How to keep a girls interest long enough to show your personality?

Question

I'm not a typical outgoing bro/social guy- but I'm a really good person and more than just a nice guy. However, I don't enjoy the initial fight for a girl's attention. I feel weird having to fight off a bunch of other guys (socially) just to keep her attention so she can see what my personality is.

What are some tactics to keep a girl's attention (in the first few minutes of meeting her)?

Answer 1

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That 'fight for attention' you're talking about is called 'the chase'. It the foreplay of a relationship, the to and fro of who likes who and everything else. Flirting is another word. And it's part of getting a girl.

When you first meet a girl (or a guy if you're reading this as a girl) you have around 45 seconds to make an impression. You have to be smart and sexy and whatever else you want to convey. If you do it, your times up, then, he/she should respond. This is the chase, this is the competition and this, I'm sorry, is a natural part of dating. It's evolutionary for couples to evaluate what they have in front of them decide if it's worth pursuing.

You want tactics? Dude, welcome to the club. Everyone wants to know how to get the girl or their prince charming but you have to figure things out on your own. Play to your strengths. Ask questions, have a conversation, tease her a bit, don't be creepy or desperate, be kind or mysterious, be yourself (no point in anything else), maybe compliment her a bit, do whatever. But even at the end of all this, the girl might just not like you. That's just how it goes.

You want to win at the dating game, get in there and figure out what works for you. Good luck.

Answer 2

Just ask questions and go with the flow. It'll come naturally like a normal convo.
If there is competition, make sure she knows that your the best out of the lot. If your nice, show her. If you a good person, demonstrate to her.
Don't go, "hey I'm a nice guy I walked an old lady across the street"
Instead show her but not that it's obvious your trying for her attention!
If she likes you already, she'll want to keep talking, if she doesn't don't worry I'm sure there's heaps more girls out there

Answer 3

By being different.

Ask her what her something that most guys wouldn't, like, "When you were growing up, what was your favorite thing to do during the summer?"

Girls like to talk, so keep asking them questions. It'll keep them interested long enough to show some of your personality too.

Answer 4

Don't come off as desperate! Be kind, give her compliments. BE YOURSELF! The number one thing a girl likes is someone that is their self; their own person. Don't make things awkward. You be the one to start up the conversation not her. Throw a few jokes in there and you'll have the girls in no time. Best Of Luck.

Answer 5

Be yourself
Be kind
Compliment her but dont smuther her
Be that cool mysterious guy but not too creepy
Ask her to hange out sometime but dont be all sappy like for example "id like to go to the movies with you doyou have any spare time we could go" NO dont say that be that cute cool fun mysterious guy and say something like "hey (say her name) im feeling in the mood for a movie (say a date) you in"

Source(s):

im a girl..... i know these things

Answer 6

compliments, flirt with your eyes, slyly ask for her number (use like an easy phone picker upper line) and umm really bump up the flirting with the eyes...SHOW YOUR SHYNESS!!!!! its uber sexy when hot guys are shy but have a hint of personality!

Answer 7

Ask about her. girls like it when people take interest in them! not in the creepy way though... also, humor is a big factor. as long as you can keep a conversation.