Should I transfer back home?

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Right now, I'm finishing up my first year at a university 6 hours from home. To be honest, it's been really rough-- I was really shy at the start of the year, which prevented me from making a real connection to my school. But I've been steadily becoming more outgoing, and now I'm trying to decide whether to continue on here or make a fresh start back home.

My big problem is that I keep flip-flopping! Yesterday, I felt like there was no point in sticking around here, and wanted to transfer. I knew that living at home and attending school there would provide some challenges (making it harder to meet people, get involved, etc.), but I felt strong enough to face them. Today, on the other hand, I feel like I should just stay here, because it'll be so much easier to meet friends if I'm constantly surrounded by other students.

I've been putting this decision off way too long, so I'm giving myself 24 hours to make my final choice. But I still don't know what to do-- staying here scares me, and I don't want another three years like this one. But I'm also terrified of moving home and slipping back into my old pattern.

The education is great at both schools, and personal finances aren't a huge issue since I plan to get a part-time job either way.

Do you have any tips for what I should do, or advice on how to madomingnal decision? Thanks so much in advance-- any answers would be greatly appreciated. :)

Additional Details

Kyle Busch: thanks, that's what I'm trying to do. :P But everyone grows up at different rates, and I'm just trying to figure out mine. :)

Answer 1

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Any time you stretch your boundries its bound to be scary and maybe uncomfortable in the beggining. When Im in a situation like your I write out a pro and con list and see which one is longer. You would really be surprised by some of your answers. Good luck and hang in there.

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Asker's Comment:

Thank you very much-- it is an uncomfortable situation, and I really appreciate your understanding. :) I've written a pros and cons list in the past, but I think I'll try another tonight, and if all else fails, stick with my intuition, whatever that may be in 24 hours. :)