What is wrong with me, low libido?

Question

Im 19 years old, starting university in September so this is a pretty big year in my life. I've always been one to fail in love with girls. There was however this one lass who messed me over and cheated on me. Ever since I have been unable to really fall in love with a girl. I started to lose interest in girls all together to be honest, and it panicked me. Since her I havent been able to get turned on at all, I worry about being gay which makes me think i have anxiety. Dont get me wrong there's nothing wrong with being gay, but ive always liked girls so i dont really want to be gay. I'll admit when a guy is good looking, but recently because im so paranoid about my low sex drive that i'll over analyse everything. When i think of girls, or watching porn, i do get hard, not majorly but i still see the result. Because i was so worried ive thought about men and sex but i get no reaction from *******. Am i gay? Do i have low testosterone? Or anxiety? I just want to go back to how i was, i used to watch porn loads and was fine, as soon as i started to worry about it its like its getting worse and worse.

Answer 1

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No. You're just human and 'greiving' over the loss of an important loved-one. Anxiety and stress lowers hormone levels and alters the immune system often for even a year.
You have nothing to lose from being friendly with people and one day you will meet a girl with a nice feminine personality who will melt that icy block in your heart totally away.

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Thank you, i think the fact that i just want it to be back to normal so fast makes me feel worse, but i'll stay positive and get on with my life until i meet that special someone

Answer 2

One has to ask the question: are you truly in love with these girls or are you just wanting to have sex with them? Sure, getting burned by a girl can have a deleterious effect on you, but I think there are more factors at play here and personal anxiety can also play hob with things.

For the nonce, I would concentrate on studies and let nature take its course

Answer 3

Any man that calls girls a lass is going to struggle getting laid at all. You are a drama queen so maybe you are gay. By the way men don't watch porn, little boys do. You will know if you are gay because you will look at guys butts rather than girls, you are just depressed, go see a doctor

Answer 4

Seek professional help.