I'm 11 and a half weeks pregnant. I had another baby at 16. I'm 28 now and it's my second. I have no feelings for the father of the baby. We were together for about 5 weeks. I was excited to be a mother with my first even though i was just a kid. But with this one, i don't seem to bond. And the thing is I've been wanting to get pregnant for years. I even thought of artificial insemination since i was single for too long. I wanted to be a mother. And as soon as i found out i was pregnant with this one i freaked out. i even considered abortion and adoption. I feel nothing towards this baby and sometimes i think i won't even care if it dies now or at birth. Why is this happening? Will i get to love my baby eventually? Is it because I feel nothing for the father? Is there a chance i never get to love it?
I'm sure this feeling will pass... Just try to stay healthy and have positive thoughts because if u did loose the baby you would feel terrible... You'll have different feelings when the baby is born I can almost garuntee it :)
Sometimes it just takes a while to bond with a baby. It's nearly impossible to bond with someone you can't even see or feel. I have two kids and one on the way and it always took me a little while to get past the pregnancy and birth and really start to enjoy my kids and to really feel the love, you know? But once I did, wow! It doesn't matter who the father is, once you see the baby and it starts to get chubby and do adorable things, you'll feel totally different. Don't worry, it's normal.
I felt the same way with my daughter. Although I previously had a stillborn I was in complete denial I was even pregnant. Same as you, first time I was attached the moment I saw the +. Bonding is a process that happens over time for some people.. even after she was born I didn't feel connected, but over time I got more and more attached and now couldn't imagine life without her. Hopefully it turns out this way for you, you can always try talking to a counceller that may help. Goodluck
to start out congrats. im 17 and pregnant with my first and i just want to say that pregnancy causes a lot of unusual imbalances in your body , which can mess with your hormones , emotions , ect. I do understand what your saying , believe me when you see your child , you will love it
Because you don't have feelings for the father and you don't even want it or your just no far enough into your pregnancy to feel for it yet but for right now just focus what's best for you and the baby
This isnt healthy thinking, this could be an early form of postpartum depression. If It was me Id go see a behavioral therapist now to fix the problem because you dont want to feel this way when the baby gets here.
You know I felt like this with my daughter too. I never thought of abortion though, but I was excited because she was my first, but at the same time I didn't want her. When she was born her dad wanted to hand her to me, I didn't want her. I didn't even want to breast feed her. Eventually my mom convinced me to feed her so I did and wow. I fell in love. Now I can't see my life without her. I can't even remember life before her. I'm not saying this will be the same with you, but I have been in a similar situation and let me tell you that it all turned around once I saw her for the first time. I hope that happens with you too.