PLEASE HELP!!!! SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!! what should i do should i move on or keep trying to see if she is interested?

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this girl and i who i have known for a few years always like to hangout together. I let her know i like her more then a friend. but she always told me she does not want to be more then friends. she said she has no interest in being more then friends with anyone.After a while i could not help my self and try to make some moves where it became enough where we stop hanging out with each other since the end of last semester. my problem is i will always want to be more then her friend. and as long as i want that my urges will make it to hard for me to be just her friend. i just talked to her again and she liked talking to me and stuff and we still have a connection where we find each others company good. But i dont know if anything has changed about her. nothing feals different i cant tell if she wants to be more then friends i never could i always got mixed messages. If i try to be more then friends with her again and she has not changed she will really be pissed that I just cant get the fact she just wants to be friends which will really hurt me again and take a lot out of me and my energy. Nothing really seems to have changed. But i cant tell i never could tell. If anything ever did change with the way she felt i dont think i ever could tell. i really find her attractive. But should i just spend my time finding someone who is actually interested in me as more then a friend rather then occupying my energy into her again?

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we have already been down the road where i tell her i want to be more then friends and she says no. a bunch of times. but its been months of no communication and i dont know if anything has changed. should i try or just find someone who seems to have more interest in me as more then a friend from the start?

Answer 1

It sounds like she enjoys your company but she isn't interested in a relationship with you. Perhaps she enjoys your attention. If she wants a relationship with you she'll let you know, otherwise don't expect anything more than friendship. If you want to test her, give your attention to someone else and if she gets jealous than maybe there is some deeper feelings there that she isn't admitting to. Good luck! :)

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Answer 2

Thats tough. I think I know the feeling. Talking to her is the only way to find out why she won't go any further than friendship with you. Ask her to be brutally honest if needs be. Her answer may hurt if she has a reason.. or you might catch her off guard. She may not have a reason. If that's the case ask her to take a chance and promise that you'll make it worth her while. And actually pull through with that promise.

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Answer 3

dear home skillet:

you have to move on. . . the girl is telling you what you already know. . . she does not want to be boyfriend girlfriend with you. Accept it, as much as you may try, and as many creative ways as you may try in, it will never happen. Don't waste your time/energy trying as you will only succeed in doing one thing. . . and that will be to have your feelings HURT. When it happens it's going to suck, and instead of doing that to yourself, just move on. . . use your energy/time on someone else. .. move on homie, I know you don't want to hear it, nor think of it, but sometimes you have to accept the reality of things. . . grab the bulls by the horns, and accept it. . .

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Answer 4

Move on. There are hotter, smarter, funnier, nicer girls out there. Trust me.

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Answer 5

heres the thing honey WOMEN like the CHASE. if she knows she can have u when she wants. she is not going to be very intersted. We are jealous creatures!! Let her see YOU flirting with someone else. We hate that. dont show her the same attention. That will have her like putty in your hands. Give your time and attention to someone else. She will come around.... I am still married to my husband after 10yrs and thats what it took for me to relize i LOVED him..

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Answer 6

just wait, hold back the urges, move on as much as you feel you should. She probably doesn't want to lose your friendship god this is familier, I put a guy through this! omg! She doesn't want to lose you as a friend, don't make moves and don't try to push her. Tell her your true feeling then say "if you still want to be friends then that fine." let her know you want to be there for her. there is probably a true reason she doesn't want to date right now, let her know she can talk to you about it. make her feel comfortable around you again, and be her friend, when she's ready she will be. But don't wait for her to long.

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Answer 7

well listen hun first you cant get over someone that quickly but you should try to move on =)
it will take time and it will hurt but sooner or later you will come to relize that she wasnt worth it
you will think "wow i cant believe that was so hard!"
and you will want to date someone else

think about it like this...
getting over someone isnt fun or easy..like a chore...chores...they are so hard but you HAVE to do them,you HAVE to get over her.

think this
can you really imagine still likeing her 20 years from now? if she ends up hurting you again?

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Answer 8

I would be her friend and take it slow and act casually around her. If you two are meant to be more than friends it will happen. Don't force anything on her. Let her decide if she likes you as more than a friend. I would give the idea some time. But right now, I would be her friend and see where it takes you. Hang out with her like old times and don't have any preconceived expectations. Just take it easy and see where it takes you.

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Answer 9

I think that since she knows you like her if she wanted something more she would either tell you and give you really clear hints. i would not try to pursue anything more than friendship for now. Don't focus all your energy on this one girl, open your eyes and see what else is out there, maybe there is someone better in store for you. Everything happens for a reason. But i will tell you a little secret. Sometimes girls think they don't like a guy, and then all of a sudden when it seems like he isn't interested in her anymore it makes them think about you more and wonder why you don't seem interested in a relationship anymore and by playing it cool and not pushing it, she may come around and start to like you. I have had guy friends where I thought I would never date them and totally wasn't interested but as i hung out with them more i surprised myself and just started falling for them and ended up dating them (this has happened at least 3 times). Just be patient. Please answer my question
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Answer 10

dude im a girl and i no for a fact that most girls will give mixed messages cuze were basically confuzed about everything all the time but wut ever u do dont make a move on her something might have happened thats why or she just doesnt like u sure she might be pretty and funny but just clear her out of ur head think of all the girls near u (the positive things) and thing of the bad parts about her (not as in hating her but so u get over her faster) avoid she may want to be ur friend right now but just avoid and when u got the "urges" out go and become her friend again (may i suggest a gf) (note:not her)

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Answer 11

no request is too extreme

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