Seating arrangements at Wedding?

Question

OK heres the deal...my fiance and I have 6 people on each of our sides and are trying to figure out what we want to do regarding our head table. We know it's typical to have all the wedding attendants sitting together at a head table, but we were thinking of somehow allowing their significant others to sit with them as well. (some of the significant others aren't too well acquainted with our guests and a few are a bit shy) so our hope is to make them feel as comfortable as possible. I still want to have that divide of the wedding party from the rest of the guests...but I have no idea what to do...any suggestions??

Answer 1

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I am a big fan of the sweetheart table.. but if you do the main table, how many people can sit there? you can probably pare down some of the wedding party at the main table by moving the ones who do know other people well to sit with those other guests. making room by effect for the dates of the remaining wedding party members.. for example, if any of the wedding party are relatives you can seat them with other family members.. if anyone in the wedding party has a spouse and kids that are coming they can be seated with them.. and so on..

Answer 2

Just you and yoru fiance at the head tabel. The attendents and their guests at table or tables flanking your table.

Answer 3

In the front of the room and slightly set away from the guests, how about a sweetheart table in the center and on each side have a groom's side table and a bride's side table?

Answer 4

What is your total number of people? It sounds like alot. I'm getting married soon too and we're going through the same thing but only have two attendants on each side. However, we've decided to completely fill the head table (12 people in all) other than right accross from us. The dinner will be long, and it adds people to talk to. I would say go with it!

Answer 5

This is what worked well for us: One head table for just you and your spouse. Then a table for his bridal party and their spouse/dates and a separate table for your bridesmaids and their dates.

Answer 6

yes yes.. some good answers here.. you 2 at a lil table. how ever........standing up for a wedding does mean your in the wedding party... wedding party eat together..... i been in many weddings where my hubby sits w/others. its your day do what you want my dear!

Answer 7

The only wedding party attendants that should be at the head table are the best man and bridesmaid and their spouses. all others should be of the immediate family of the bride and groom. The other attendants could be placed at the next available tables adjoining.

Answer 8

have you and your intended at a sweetheart table and then a table for the bridesmaids and their guys and then a table for the groomsmen and their women. put each table on the appropriate side.. bm's on bride's side..

Answer 9

talbe for you and him alone
talbe for wedding party and guests (maybe two for a large party)

Answer 10

A table for you, your guy, your MOH and her signif other...your best man & his signif other as the head table...then a sweetheart table for the other members of the bridal party & their signif others.....or a table for just you & your husband, and separate table or two if room is an issue for your bridal party & their signif others.....you could have your table in the center & two sweetheart tables, one on either end of you so you're framed by them.....good luck.

Answer 11

You have many options. Put all the wedding party dates at a table together. It's only for dinner then everyone will be up and moving anyway. They can be shy around each other and would probably have more to talk about since their significent others are obviously accuqainted.

Get a sweetheart table and you and your husband sit by yourselves and put tables near you of the wedding party and their dates. (I'm not really crazy about these, the reception is supposed to be about celebrating with your family and friends not for you guys to sit by yourselves. Just a personal opinion though).

Set up a round head talbe and sit with your husband and your immediates families. Then the next two tables put the wedding party and their dates.

Anything goes these days, no matter what you do someone will probably have something to say about it so talk it over with your fiance and see what you guys are more comfortable with.

Answer 12

I applaud your wanting to accomodate the dates of your wedding party, but I don't see a very easy way to do this.
Your options are:
1 - sweetheart table (the downside - you aren't sitting with your wedding party)
2 - 'usual' head table with your party. Then have their dates sit at a table together so those that feel apart from their dates can commiserate. Also, it would be good of you to introduce them before the wedding if that is possible so they might know eachother a bit.
3 - head table with dates. If you put the dates at the end beyond your wedding party, they aren't really sitting next to their dates anyway so it will seem odd. BUT if you put the date next to the party, then you don't have your wedding party right next to you and photos might not go the way you really want them to.

My best man is married & has two kids. I feel bad keeping him away from them and I was mulling these ideas around myself, but he told me that he is standing in our wedding for US and that he will sit apart from his family if that is what acheives the look we are going for. His other comment was "its not like I'm glued to my seat all night, I will be able to get up and see my wife & kids".

Answer 13

Me and fiance are seating at the table by ourselves.

Answer 14

that's nice of you I just went to a wedding this weekend and I was super hurt. My husband was in a wedding and they had 12 people on each side and the spouses of those in the wedding sat close to the head table mixed with the family. it was a good size wedding they had 200 guest. 20 tables with 10 at each table well I got seated at table 17 with the brides co workers. I just felt that was a slap in the face that my husband was the only person I knew and I could not even sit close to him. So it is nice you are thinking of this.

Answer 15

Just have your attendants at the head table. Their dates or spouses just sit somewhere else for the dinner.