Ok so i have social anxiety and....please read and answer!?

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ok so i have social anxiety and i hate large groups of people. when i hang out with friends i like to be with a small group, preferably only 1 other person but my best friend thinks that i'm just too judgemental and don't want to do anything different or meet new people. she always get's mad at me when i say i don't want to stay out late or hang out with different people and today she sent me a text that said "it seems like you cant get over hourself and accept other people for who they are without judging them" i've had anorexia with depression and anxiety for over 2 years now and i know its hard to deal with but i just don't know how to respond to that. she doesn't seem to listen.

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and yes i am on medication for both anxiety and depression and basically have some type of therapy almost everyday- group, individual, art...

Answer 1

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I know what you mean. I hate being with large groups of people and really hate talking to people I don't know. Its not that I don't like the person, its just that I get kind of terrified! What I do is just go to the parties and such and just stay there for a while. Trust me after the first 30 min you'll be more relaxed.

Answer 2

Take Tramadol!

Answer 3

If she doesn't listen then too bad, ditch her. I used to be like that and its hard to do it without being anxious or nervous. All you can do is get out more, possibly get a job where you have to deal with the public like a customer service phone operator for starters.

Answer 4

It seems like she doesn't completely understand your condition. Try talking to her about it and educating her on exactly what is going on in your head. If you see a therapist or a doctor about these maybe see if you can bring her to an appointment. This may help her to understand these things even more. Good Luck!

Answer 5

i have the same issue. i have depression and anxiety in which i am not being treated for and it is really difficult. i cant really go anywhere because i feel like people are judging me all the time and people think im just being a stuck up snob when that isnt the case. have u told ur friend that u have this? maybe u should explain it to her and say she can look it up online if she doesnt believe u, or even print what i am writing and show her that other people have it to. i mean its so bad that i hate hanging with people i dont know, hate going bowling or doing anything that has several strangers around. just explain it to her, if she still doesnt believe u and doesnt support that you are going through this then maybe she isnt a really good friend. a friend should be open minded and be supportive of anything that you are going through. good luck!!!!

Answer 6

You need to explain to her your anxiety. Try and relate to something she can understand. Ask if she has ever been afraid of something or had a disorder. If she is a good friend, and worthy of being your best friend, she should understand that it is physically painful for you to be put in those situations, and she should want what is best for you. Hope you feel better about this!

Answer 7

I believe you should be your own person... no matter what!! because i am a spirtual person who also believes everything happens for a reason.... so good luck!!
You have to take care of yourself because nobody else can do it better than you....

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me

Answer 8

You don't know this feeling either until you have walked in those shoes. She's going to have to accept everyone's different in their own ways for whatever reason or not. I am Bi-polar and have social anxiety myself. Are you on any medications for this?? It can be undone if you truly have these problems cause some people are just naturally that way. I'd talk to your Dr. about the problem and you may need therapy along with medications. Good luck to you and tell your friend to get over it and if she can't deal with it too then you two really shouldn't be friends anyway. Sounds crude but that's the way it is when it comes right down to it. I wish you luck

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been living it on and off for the past 25 yrs. Been there done that.

Answer 9

Do what you like. Don't let people push you around.